Dear Cupid,
My boyfriend and I have only been serious for a couple of weeks so I don’t know if I should go all out and spend a lot of money for Valentine’s Day. I’m trying to save money to pay off student loans but at the same time I don’t want to come across as stingy. What do you advise?
-Saving Money
Dear Saving Money,
You and your boyfriend have only been together for a little while so you shouldn’t be expected to spend hundreds of dollars on him. However, it's a good idea to set a limit with each other so you are both on the same page. Sometimes it is hard to talk about money but it’s better to be open at first rather than being surprised with a big gift from him… and then feeling bad you didn’t get him something better on the big day.
-Cupid
Dear Cupid,
My girlfriend’s parents have this huge party for Valentine’s Day every year. While it is a great party, I really just want to whisk her away for the weekend and skip the party all together. We have been together for six years and have gone to the party every year. I want to keep it a surprise but don’t know if it’s inappropriate or selfish to ask her parents if we can miss it.
-Weekend Jetsetter
Dear Weekend Jetsetter,
I think you’ve been a great boyfriend spending the last six Valentines with her parents. I think it’s about time you take the year off and spend the day together, ALONE! It is not inappropriate or selfish and in fact I find it a bit selfish that they would expect you to attend every year. From what it seems, you are a little bit nervous approaching her parents. Well you need to get over that. If you want this woman in your life for the long haul, you’re going to have to ask them a much more serious question in the future, so use this as practice!
-Cupid
Dear Cupid,
I have a huge crush on this woman at work. Lately we have been spending a lot more time together working on a project and my feelings have intensified. We have great chemistry and she always makes me laugh, which I can’t say a lot of women do. I don’t want to make her feel uncomfortable if she doesn’t feel the same way but I really think this woman could be more than a hot office romance. I know she doesn’t have any plans for Valentine’s Day. Do you think it’s risky to ask her to do something?
-Workers' Block
Dear Workers' Block,
Office romance is delicate, especially if you have to work closely with the person. I’m not the biggest fan of slipping into the same sheets as your coworkers, but it seems as if it’s about more than just trying to sleep with this woman. She has obviously made quite an impression! The next time you guys are working step up your game and ask her to grab a drink afterwards. I think if you take your relationship outside of the office it will be a lot easier to tell if she feels the same way. I would definitely make an attempt to spend some time with her before asking her to be your Valentine.
-Cupid
Dear Cupid,
I have been with my boyfriend for four years and as another Valentine’s Day approaches I know that he’s not going to go out of his way to plan anything. He is a great guy and we click so well, but if his life depended on it he still wouldn’t plan anything romantic. Frankly, I’m tired of hearing about all of my friends amazing days and don’t want another year to pass by where I get just a card and dinner. How do I tell him I’m not happy without sounding high maintenance?
-A Little Romance Please
Dear A little Romance please,
I must ask the question, has this guy ever been romantic with you? After four years you might have led this guy to think your okay with the no fuss of Valentine’s Day!! BUT that doesn’t mean you have to keep it that way. It’s just going to be harder to change things. I would sit him down and let him know how you feel. I don’t think you are high maintenance in your request but I would try and make things easier for your guy. Offer suggestions or websites he can turn to especially for his first attempt. Perhaps enlist a sister or one of your friends to help him out. When your rugged man gives you what you want, even if it’s not perfect the first go around, MAKE SURE you let him know how much you appreciate his efforts. This feeling will make him a lot more receptive to bringing home flowers and planning a weekend getaway, long after Valentine’s Day.
-Cupid